When a relationship turns toxic and or abusive, some targets of abusive behavior get out right away – but many do not. This can puzzle and frustrate well-meaning friends and family members who simply can’t understand why the target just doesn’t pack their bags...
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5 ways divorced parents weaponize their children
When parents divorce, their top priority should always be their children. Most of the time, that’s exactly how it works. Unfortunately, some parents – especially parents who are narcissistic or emotionally abusive – are perfectly willing to “weaponize” the children...
You can’t change him: 6 reasons an abusive spouse won’t reform
Domestic violence is an epidemic in this nation. It’s estimated that one out of every three women has been physically abused by a partner. While most women think that they would leave at the first hint of physical violence, that’s not always how things play out in...
Dark tech: 6 ways abusive spouses use digital tools for control
With the rise of the “Internet of Things,” technology has become even more deeply intertwined into people’s lives than ever. While technological advances bring numerous benefits, they can also be misused. Abusive spouses have found ways to turn digital devices and...
Dissipation of the marital assets: 6 ways it happens
Financial conflicts are a major source of marital problems, and filing for divorce doesn’t always mean that those conflicts will end. Sometimes, a vindictive spouse will actually ramp up their financial abuses. The wasteful or reckless depletion of shared resources...
Forced to litigate – 3 reasons you may have to litigate your divorce
These days, the vast majority of divorces are handled through negotiations which culminate in a final Settlement Agreement. Warring spouses put their grievances aside enough to hash out exactly how the marital property and debts need to be divided, along with any...
4 reasons “equitable” doesn’t always mean “equal” in a divorce
When you’re going through a divorce, one of the most important issues most couples have to address is the division of the marital estate. In contrast to community property states like California, New York is an equitable distribution state. Once each spouse’s separate...
7 things automatic temporary restraining orders do in New York
When you’re going through a divorce that seems like it came out of nowhere, the immediate concerns you’re facing can make it difficult to think very far ahead. Will your spouse drain the bank account” Will they cut off all financial support and leave you without any...
When money becomes the root of “all evil” in your marriage
No matter who you are and how much you earn, you can still have money woes. It’s no surprise, then, that 35% of people say that financial problems are at the heart of their relationship problems with their spouse. In these cases, money, and frequently the lack thereof...
5 signs that couples therapy won’t work
Nobody wants to just “give up” on their marriage. Once you’ve made a commitment to another person, it’s only natural to do everything in your power to keep the relationship alive – even when you’re going through difficult times. That’s why a lot of people try couples...