4 reasons why some victims stay in violent marriages

On Behalf of | Feb 12, 2024 | Divorce, Family Law, High-Net-Worth Divorce, High-Profile Divorce, Invisible Abuse, Mia Poppe

Marriage is not a bed of roses. It is ultimately possible that the person you married may cease to be the loving and supportive partner you once knew. Violence in marriage is rampant, and victims may find themselves trapped in such situations for various reasons.

While every individual case is different, there are some common reasons why victims may stay in violent marriages. They include the following.

Financial dependence

One unfortunate reason for victims staying in violent marriages is financial dependence. Many individuals, especially spouses who do not work or have limited financial resources, may fear the economic consequences of leaving an abusive relationship. They might worry about their ability to support themselves and their children, which can make it challenging to break free from the abusive situation.

Fear of retaliation

Victims of violent marriages may stay in the relationship due to fear of retaliation. Abusers often use threats and intimidation to control their victims, making it difficult for them to leave without fearing harm or further violence. The fear of physical harm, harm to loved ones, or even emotional and psychological retaliation can be overwhelming, preventing the victim from taking steps to escape the abusive relationship.

Lack of a support system

If the victim does not know where to run or lacks a strong support system, they may feel isolated and helpless. Social isolation can be a powerful tool for abusers to maintain control over their victims. Without friends, family, or other support networks, victims may believe they have nowhere to turn for assistance. This lack of support can contribute to a sense of hopelessness and make it more challenging for victims to leave the violent marriage.

Low self-esteem

Victims of domestic violence often experience a decline in self-esteem and self-worth as a result of the abuse. Abusers may use blackmail, guilt, or constant criticism to undermine the victim’s confidence. This diminished self-esteem can make it difficult for the victim to believe they deserve a better life or that they can successfully navigate the challenges of leaving the abusive relationship.

Victims of violent marriages should be able to escape the cycle of abuse and find support to rebuild their lives. At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.

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Mia Poppe, Esq.