Abuse manifests in different ways, and sometimes it is not visible. Many people suffer silently from invisible abuse, leading dejected and isolated lives without fully recognizing the source of their suffering. Also known as covert abuse, invisible abuse can be insidious, leaving victims feeling confused, invalidated and powerless, often without clear evidence or tangible proof of the harm inflicted upon them.
While it is hard to point out the signs of invisible abuse, you can better discern if you’re struggling with this kind of mistreatment by paying attention to certain subtle cues in your potentially toxic relationships and interactions. The following are four signs that you may be experiencing invisible abuse.
You are feeling stuck
Victims of invisible abuse often find themselves feeling trapped in their situations, unable to see a way out. This sense of being stuck can manifest in various aspects of life, such as feeling unable to express oneself freely, pursue personal goals or make independent decisions without fear of backlash or manipulation.
You feel isolated and alone
Covert abusers often isolate their victims from friends, family, and support networks as a means of maintaining control. You may find yourself withdrawing from social activities or cutting ties with loved ones because you feel ashamed or embarrassed about your situation. This isolation can further exacerbate feelings of loneliness and despair, making it even harder to reach out for help.
Your boundaries are constantly violated
Invisible abuse often involves a disregard for boundaries and personal autonomy, with the abuser exerting control over every aspect of your life. They may ignore your boundaries, invade your privacy or dictate how you should think, feel and behave, leaving you feeling powerless and disempowered, as though your own needs and preferences are insignificant compared to the demands of the abuser.
You experience physical symptoms of stress and anxiety
The effects of invisible abuse are not just psychological – they can also manifest in physical symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, insomnia and fatigue. The chronic stress and anxiety caused by living in a constant state of fear and uncertainty can take a toll on your physical health, leading to a variety of somatic complaints.
Abuse in all forms is wrong, and if you find yourself living with an abusive partner, it may be time to take a look at your options. At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.
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Mia Poppe, Esq.
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