You have successfully managed to divorce or otherwise split from your narcissistic ex, but you find yourself in a situation where you need to co-parent with them. While you are understandably dismayed, the children will benefit from the stable and supportive environment that you can cultivate for them.
The issue of co-parenting with a narcissistic ex calls for a strategic and empathetic approach that prioritizes the well-being of the children above all else. These tips can help you find a balance between maintaining boundaries and building a cooperative co-parenting relationship, if possible, with your ex.
Avoid negativity and conflict
Dealing with a narcissistic person in any capacity is difficult, and co-parenting with one can be especially challenging. Avoiding negativity can be tough, but it’s crucial for maintaining a healthy co-parenting dynamic. Try to focus on the well-being of your children rather than getting caught up in conflicts with your ex.
Set clear boundaries
Narcissists can drain you and make life unpleasant if you don’t establish clear boundaries. Define what behaviors are acceptable and unacceptable when it comes to co-parenting interactions. Communicate these boundaries calmly and assertively with your ex, emphasizing that they are in the best interest of the children’s stability and emotional well-being.
Focus on giving your child the best
The main reason to co-parent with a narcissistic ex is to ensure that your child receives the love, support and stability they need to thrive. Keep this goal at the forefront of your mind when interacting with your ex. Focus on providing your child with a positive and nurturing environment, even if your co-parenting relationship with your ex is less than ideal.
Document everything
Keeping clear documentation of all communication and interactions with your ex can be invaluable, especially when dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. This documentation can include emails, text messages and notes from in-person or phone conversations. Having a record of interactions can help protect you in case of disputes or conflicts over co-parenting arrangements.
It will take a lot of patience and commitment to co-parent with your narcissistic ex. If at some point you feel overwhelmed, you can consider seeking legal guidance to better understand your options and obligations under your arrangement and the law more broadly. At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you or someone you know is considering co-parenting legal guidance, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.
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Mia Poppe, Esq.