Protecting children during a high-conflict divorce

On Behalf of | Feb 15, 2024 | Divorce

High-conflict divorce can have a traumatizing impact on all parties, especially where children are involved. Sometimes, couples overlook the importance of protecting their children during these tumultuous times. Children caught in the midst of high-conflict divorces may experience a range of emotional, psychological and behavioral issues.

Parents should take measures to protect their children from the harmful effects of high-conflict divorce by prioritizing their well-being above all else. There are several ways children can be protected by creating a supportive and stable environment for them.

How can you protect children during a high-conflict divorce?

Some of the measures parents can take to protect their children during a high-conflict divorce include:

  • Reassurance: It is important to reassure them of your unconditional love and support. Remind them that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents still love them deeply. Emphasize that they are not alone and that both parents are there to listen to their feelings and concerns.
  • Protect children from adult issues: Shield children from adult conflicts and issues related to the divorce as much as possible. Avoid discussing legal matters, financial issues or intimate details of the divorce with the children. Keep conversations age-appropriate and focus on reassuring them of their well-being and security.
  • Encourage open communication: Allowing the children to express their feelings and concerns openly and without fear of judgment or reprisal is crucial. Create a safe space where children feel comfortable sharing their emotions, thoughts and questions about the divorce. Listen actively and empathetically to what they have to say, validating their feelings and reassuring them that their emotions are normal and understandable.
  • Avoid parental alienation: Refrain from speaking negatively about the other parent in front of the children or trying to turn them against the other parent. Allow children to maintain healthy relationships with both parents, regardless of any conflicts between the adults. Encourage positive interactions and support their bond with the other parent.

When dealing with a high-conflict divorce, it is important to consider seeking legal guidance to help cope with the challenges that could affect adults and children alike. At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.

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Mia Poppe, Esq.