People typically expect their marriages to last for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, people may find that their spouses are cheating on them. This is often an immediate deal breaker and can lead to divorce.
However, cheating isn’t always obvious. Some people know that their actions would ruin their marriage and will do everything they can to hide the fact of their infidelity. If you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you, you may want to watch for these signs:
1. They’re suddenly and frequently working late
It can be easy for people to claim the reason why they’re not home as often is because their job is calling them in to work extra hours. During these overtime hours, it may be harder for people to reach out to their spouses. Their spouses may have their phones turned off or their texts and calls go unanswered.
However, this may be the first sign that your spouse is using their job as an excuse to see someone else — and you should be particularly concerned if you don’t see a pay increase that corresponds with all the extra hours they’re supposedly putting in.
2. They’re keeping their phone hidden away
Cheaters often use the same phone that they talk to their spouses to talk to the people they’re cheating with. As a result, you should pay attention if your spouse suddenly seems more protective of their privacy than normal. They may especially be cautious about letting you see texts or overhear calls that may reveal that they’re cheating.
3. You notice unexplainable expenses
Cheating isn’t exactly cheap. There may be romantic dinners, hotel rooms and gifts involved — and that can put a drain on your finances. If you notice that money is short and your spouse has no explanation for where the money is going, it may be time to dig deeper. Similarly, you should probably be concerned if your spouse seems cagey about the credit card bills, since that may be how they’re funding their fling.
4. You see someone frequently on your spouse’s social media
People aren’t always subtle about who they’re spending time with on social media. Perhaps someone doesn’t think their spouse looks at the comments and pictures they make. Frequent comments or pictures with someone could indicate an emotional affair or even physical cheating
5. They’re keeping up with their appearance suddenly
People often are less picky about their appearances once they’re married. However, cheaters often dress themselves and watch their weight more once they’ve started “playing the field,” in order to make themselves more attractive to new partners. If your spouse has made some dramatic changes that seem to come out of nowhere, it could be a sign they’re already looking around for someone else.
If you find that your spouse is cheating on you, then you may need to act fast. Your spouse may already know that their actions would lead to a divorce if they were found out and have a backup plan. At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.
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Mia Poppe, Esq.