Coping with a high-conflict divorce

On Behalf of | Aug 7, 2023 | Divorce

High-conflict divorces are incredibly difficult and often emotionally draining for all involved parties, including children. If you are going through one, you may feel hopeless or worry that your troubles will last forever.

These feelings are more normal than you might think, but remember that negative emotions can impact your decision-making. Working through your feelings and finding ways to cope may help you and your kids survive and perhaps even thrive during and after your divorce.

Your survival guide for a high-conflict divorce

One of the most important things to do when divorcing is to practice self-care, especially when conflict is nearly constant. Make sure to eat well and get plenty of sleep and remember that regular exercise can help you process and deal with your negative emotions.

Other ways for you and your children to survive high-conflict divorce include:

  • Focusing on your children. Putting the needs of your children at the forefront may improve your overall outlook and help you make wiser divorce decisions involving your kids and marital property.
  • Setting firm communication boundaries. Setting and enforcing communication boundaries with your spouse may help to reduce divorce conflict and protect your emotional well-being.
  • Not engaging in conflict. Checking out or turning off when your spouse tries to draw you into an argument can stop a disagreement and may help to prevent them in the future.
  • Building a support network. Talking with friends, family or a support group about what you are going through could make a big difference in your ability to cope with the challenges of a high-conflict divorce.
  • Seeking professional help. Speaking with a therapist or counselor can help you deal with the emotional and practical challenges of divorcing and possibly improve your spouse-to-spouse communications.

Practicing the three P’s of a high-conflict divorce may also help you feel better.

  • Be patient because your divorce will not last forever.
  • Be persistent because you could lose much if you give in to spousal demands.
  • Be prepared because knowledge of New York divorce laws can help you protect your rights.

Taking a proactive approach to your divorce can minimize conflict in the present and set the stage for reduced hardships in your post-divorce discussions with your ex.

At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.


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Mia Poppe, Esq.

Mia Poppe, Esq.
Managing Partner