The way that you bring up divorce can impact how the process goes. Suddenly suggesting it in the middle of an argument with your spouse will probably make the process more contentious. Bringing it up carefully and calmly can help things go more smoothly.
Everyone’s situation is unique, of course. Exactly how you start this conversation probably depends on the reason for the divorce. It’s much different if you’ve grown apart over 20 years than it is if you just found out your spouse had an affair.
The following tips can help
Your goal is likely to make things go smoothly and efficiently, so here are a few key tips that can help:
- Find the right time to talk, and be sure you actually have enough time for the entire conversation.
- Avoid other stressful events, like major work deadlines, birthdays or holidays.
- Don’t ask for a divorce. State that you are going to get one. You don’t need your spouse’s permission. You are just telling them what is coming.
- Be empathetic. You may not need their permission, but empathizing with how your spouse feels helps reduce conflict.
- Be prepared for pushback. Your spouse may try to deny the divorce – which they can’t do, legally – or talk you out of it.
- Only say it when you’re sure. Don’t bring up divorce until you know it is 100% what you want.
These tips can definitely help as you get the divorce process underway. It helps to have experienced legal guidance as you take these next steps.
At The Law Firm of Poppe & Associates, PLLC, our focus is relentless advocacy for our clients. If you are considering divorce, reach out to schedule a consultation at 646-665-3903 or by contacting us online.
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Mia Poppe, Esq.
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